Full disclosure: I’m married. I’m not going anywhere except to the grave. Hopefully, neither is my wife. So you wouldn’t think the subject of racial preferences in dating would be of intense personal interest to me. However, as it happens, I have some relevant experience with interracial dating: all of it bad.
It’s natural to prefer the company of one’s own kind, and supremely so when the subjects are love, sex, and procreation. However, there are institutions that have made it their policy to “debias” white people’s “desire.” Some of them have effective control over our entertainment and our Web experiences. Jason Kessler has a video on the subject. If you’re 1) white, and 2) easily angered, you might not want to watch it.
As it happens, many American singles go looking for love through an online dating app. I have no idea what frequency of success they enjoy. However, it’s become apparent that the one thing a white singleton looking for a sweetheart must not do is to state openly that he’s looking for a white date. That, we are told in stentorian tones, is racist:
On the surface, the dating site Where White People Meet – launched in late 2015 by a married man who publicly defended the site, for white people who want to date other white people, by stating he isn’t a racist because he dated a black woman once – may seem like a fair endeavor. There are lots of dating sites catering to people of certain identities, like jdate.com for Jewish people or ourtime.com for those older than 50.
But while sites catering to specific religions help adherents meet requirements of their faith, and sites for people with shared interests help connect likeminded souls, Where White People Meet is just another example of racism. White people are already one of the most desired demographics on most dating sites anyway. And according to a recent study out of Australia on online dating apps, people who display a marked romantic preference for one race are more likely to be racist.
If you search for “Dating apps for whites,” you might find one or two – I did – but you’re guaranteed to find articles denouncing them as well. I searched for “dating apps for blacks” and “dating apps for Asians,” and failed to find any such articles. The distinction could hardly be clearer.
But Quartz wants you to know that you don’t need a dating app for whites:
The creator of the online dating website WhereWhitePeopleMeet has been getting some questions about why he and his wife would build such a site. The answer, according to the website’s “About Us” page, is “why not?”
But despite criticisms that the website is inherently racist, Sam Russell, the 53-year-old Utah man who founded the website with his wife Tami, told the Washington Post that the site is not racially motivated in any way. He insisted that it was born of the idea that singletons of “every origin, race, religion and lifestyle” can find someone for them, even white people.
“It’s about equal opportunity,” Russell said. “The last thing in the world I am is racist.”
He compared WhereWhitePeopleMeet to Christian Mingle and Farmers Only as examples of preference-based dating websites. In addition, there’s also Tinder, for mobile-first millennials, and Hinge, for anyone who’s afraid of Tinder, and Grouper, for those who prefer to bring two friends along to blind dates. The League caters to a crop of Ivy League graduates and high-earning young professionals. Grindr is a popular option for gay men; Her bills itself as a dating app for lesbians built by lesbians.
But what seems to have escaped Russell is that white people can already find each other with ease on these apps—and in real life, especially in Russell’s state of Utah, which is 91% white. The country as a whole is 77% white. ”Where White People Meet” could pretty much describe almost every online dating website.
Got that? It’s all in your head! The constant hectoring about “white supremacy,” the barrage of “anti-racism” ploys and pitches, the demands for “reparations,” the barrage of entertainment that always contains an interracial couple, and the instant, savage condemnations of any mechanism by which white people can find one another for any reason or none. You’re imagining it all! It’s just one more artifact of your “white privilege” and your “systemic racism.”
As I said, I have some experience in this matter, though it was pre-Internet and conducted through a dating service. Today, as singles strive to connect with someone to love through the Web, the tech giants are doing their best to “debias our desire.” What’s that you say? You don’t find black or Asian woman attractive? You prefer to be with your own kind? You want your children to look like you? YOU RACIST MONSTER!
Many years ago, when I first confronted the thesis that there’s a sotto voce genocide in progress against the white race, I was skeptical, to say the least. No longer, though I have no idea how to counteract it. I hope someone is working on it.
I have a dog in this hunt. I’m as pasty white as you can get. I keep saying that absent my kippa I could walk into a KKK rally without a second glance. I’m married to a non-white woman. That’s my decision. (Though in 20-20 hindsight, if I were back in my college days, I’d have pursued only an Orthodox Jew as a wife. In full disclosure Ashkenazi cuisine sucks…)
But I am flabbergasted, as part of my political evolution, at the anti-white rhetoric and cultural push. What used to be ho-hum on ads, I now notice the overt mixed couples. To the point where I almost don’t see white couples with white children.
Understand – I don’t want to be race conscious. I am being forced to be by a country and elite class that want people who look like me gone.
These things happen when people fall for content of character fairytales.
I can’t say that it’s only about color/race/heritage.
It’s also culture. I LIKE my NW European heritage; my husband shares most of it with me. We shared a religion, common ways of interacting within family, agreement on most aspects of raising children, and ways of celebrating holidays and leisure time that meshed.
We have the same sensibilities about public behavior; we are put off by loud behavior in theaters, loose morals, and lining up without ‘cutting in’ (that IS a White Thing; it’s a HUGE deal to the Snowy Ones).