One of my differences with the Church is about the acceptability of sex between an unmarried man and an unmarried woman. It doesn’t violate the Sixth Commandment as God handed it to Moses and as Jesus of Nazareth reaffirmed it. But that doesn’t mean “anything goes,” morally, ethically, or practically.
While I’m sincere about the view above, despite the deviation from Catholic doctrine, there are…phenomena in our milieu that strike me as too depraved to tolerate. Here’s an example, from Divemedic:
I met a young lady who was employed at an Orlando area gentleman’s club. Yes, it’s what you are thinking- she was a stripper. During dinner, she mentioned that there was no way that she would sleep with a man until he had taken her on at least two expensive dates. Her exact words were “I am not about to give him any until he has spent at least $200 on me.”
Well, women like that piss me off, so I said: “Do I actually have to spend time listening to you talk, or will you just take a check?” while pulling out my checkbook. (That’s a book with special pieces of paper in them that you can take to the bank and exchange for money, for those of you born after 1998 or so.)
With that comment, the table went silent. When we got back to the hotel, my buddy David said, “I can’t believe you called that chick a whore.”
My reply: “I didn’t. She did.”
I encountered a couple of women of that sort when I was “between wives.” They’re the sort that makes one muse about whether there were good points to Nineteenth Century prudery after all. Applause to Divemedic for seeing the situation clearly and responding appropriately.
Now, sex has power. Sexual access is something a man must win, not something he should take for granted. Normally – i.e., with a good woman in mind – he does this by convincing her that he’s the sort of man she wants in her bed and her body. But the way many women use sexual availability is, shall we say, somewhat at variance with a decent man’s expectations. Courtesy of Mike Hendrix comes another vignette:
[Musician Randy Bachman] was walking down the street with a stack of records under his arm, when he saw three “tough-looking biker guys” approaching. He felt threatened and was looking for a way to cross the street onto the other sidewalk when a little car pulled up to the men. A woman about 5 feet tall got out of the car, shouting at one of them, asking where he’d been all day, that he had left her alone with the kids, didn’t take out the trash, and was down here watching the girls. The man was suddenly alone when his buddies walked away. Chastened, he got in the car as the woman told him before pulling away: “And one more thing, you ain’t getting no sugar tonight”. The words stuck in Bachman’s memory.
Bachman then wrote a short song in the key of F♯ called “No Sugar Tonight”. When he presented the song to Burton Cummings and RCA, he was told that the song was too short. Bachman and Cummings expanded the song by adding to it a song Cummings had written that was also in the key of F♯, “New Mother Nature”.
That’s sex used as a bludgeon to compel the man’s obedience to the woman’s preferences. It’s as vile as demanding payment, whether in cash or in goods. Today’s feminists make plain how vile they are by exhorting women to use their sexual allure this way.
I can’t imagine how low an opinion of oneself is required to stay with a woman who would treat her man that way. But it’s become appallingly commonplace. It’s one of the drivers for the Men Going Their Own Way movement. It can creep into any heterosexual relationship…and it should be taken by the man as a clear indication that the love is gone, if indeed there ever was any. Few such lapsed loves can be restored.
Novelist E. William Brown has something pithy to say about contemporary female tendencies. Here, his sorcerer-protagonist Daniel Black is contemplating whether he’s willing to join a coven, which would require him to take magically binding promises of fidelity to four female witches:
Learning more about the traditional methods witches used to make covens work hadn’t done much to set my mind at ease. Back home it would be just about impossible to find five people who could maintain that kind of relationship for long. Inevitably attention wouldn’t be shared equally, someone would get their feelings hurt, and things would go rapidly downhill from there. Especially considering how poisonous modern relationship advice is. Teaching men to subserviently kowtow to a woman’s every whim, while the women are taught to harshly scrutinize their partners for any possible fault, is not a recipe for happy relationships.
It can’t be put any more succinctly than that – and it’s a great part of the reason millions of men have turned against marriage as a life goal. Add women’s unashamed use of sexual access as a carrot / stick to bludgeon men into submission, and you have a major contributor to the failure of Western societies to breed at replacement rate or better.